There are five stages of listening, receiving, understanding, remembering, evaluating, and responding. The five stages overlap. In receiving, you need to focus your attention, maintain your role and avoid assuming that you understand. In understanding, it is important that you see the speaker’s messages from their point of view. It is also helpful to rephrase their message to be clear and also ask questions to clarify or confirm that you understand their message. The third stage is remembering, you need to focus on the main idea, organize what you hear, combine what you knew previously and repeat important information to yourself such as names and information. Next is evaluating, you should wait until you fully understand what the speaker …show more content…
My mother then, closes her laptop and asks my father to repeat his question. She heard: what was the bill and how much was the car door. Not at all what he said. In this case, the TV, dishwasher and laptop affected my mother’s ability to hear, which was the physical noise. Her distraction with Facebook, was the mental distraction. My mother could have said, please turn the TV down, and looked directly at my father while he spoke. She did neither, until she ask him to repeat his question. She only did this after, she questioned his response (this time, he did turn the TV down and she had his full attention). My second example, is lack of appropriate focus. In this example, my mother is discussing our next Florida trip with me. She begins by telling me that we are going to Universal Studios (which is my favorite Florida destination). Apparently, she next told me that we were staying at The Art of Animation Resort (which is a Disney resort). As she is talking, in my head, I am running through all the things at Universal I want to do, and I know that they have added some additional Christmas attractions, so I am visioning how that will look. I focus back on her, and she is telling me about the room at the resort. I say, did they change the hotel at Universal? She said, no, we are staying that the Disney resort not the Universal resort this time. I totally missed the hotel information because I was planning my day at the park. I got detoured from the hotel
A vital aspect of interpersonal communication is the style in which one listens. While every individual possesses their own preferred method of listening in communication, it can be enlightening to analyze our own strengths and weaknesses so as to maximize effectual communication. Within the confines of four main listening style categories, I have chosen those which best describe my own personal listening style.
After analyzing my results for the Student Listening Inventory the interpretation of my score showed that I perceive myself to be a good listener in the classroom, but I can still improve my listening skills. I agree with the results from this inventory and found it very insightful when identifying my strengths and weaknesses.
Take the time, to take the time, to hear the other person, absorb the information, and respond to that moment, “receive empathetically.” I appreciate Rosenberg’s approach to seize the moment, be present and focus on the other persons feelings in the conversations because even though the conversation is involving two parties to convey the active listening through clear focus the other person will in turn feel more comfortable and come out of their shell. Like myself, I believe that most people struggle with listening because of an excitement value to add to the conversation. I sometimes find myself not listening and simply waiting for the other person to stop talking so I can say my words which in turn the other person is now just waiting for me to stop talking so they can say their words and before you know it the conversation is out of control and only words are being tossed back and forth instead of ideas and
I was sitting there as a 15 year old girl in an auditorium that was scared just because I was away from home for more then one night. Even though I was at church camp I was terrified, I was terrified that people would find out of past mistakes and doubt that I had. At this point in my spiritual journey I had many doubts in if God actually cared about me after I had messed up that many times. The first day I listened to men speak all day about how being catholic is a gift in itself and how with God everything else will fall in place. At this time in my life this all felt like a lie because I had tried praying and nothing was getting better. It wasn’t until the first women of the day got up on stage that I actually could listen and connect with the
One significant thing that I learned from listening to the broadcast is that there were labor camps where many children starved to death and lived in horrible conditions that were unbarring. Also many others were murdered and killed in cold blood, and the very few who were able to survive the treacherous living conditions were forced to work from five in the morning to midnight. One person who was part of this labor camp was a man named Arn Chorn-Pond. One important thing that he was able to learn was the flute. Because he learned this he was able to play propaganda songs which without a doubt helped assure his survival in the horrible days that he had to live in the labor camp.
Define each. Provide real-world examples for each. 18 points The six steps of effective listening are being mindful, physically receiving message(s), selecting and organizing information, interoperate communication, responding, and remembering. Being mindful is to be fully committed to the moment with complete focus and no judgement.
To improve my listening skills I personally need to focus on avoiding the thought of I know what is going to happen. I also need to control my thoughts. In the book it states we must identify poor habits such as interrupting and tuning out. Also we must strive for mindful listening. Mindful listening is the desire to get the whole message and eliminating noisy barriers. The last part of mindful listening is to place your agenda lower on the priority list than the
When building and restoring relationships with patients and co-workers, the author of this article states five things that are necessary to practice. These skills are presence and mindfulness, reflective listening, information gathering and agenda setting, recognizing and responding to emotion, and gratitude and appreciation. With these skills, the physician can create a welcoming, positive relationship that builds trust, which is the most critical part of the job.
Adler and Proctor define listening as the process of making sense of others’ messages (Adler and Proctor 245) and mindful listening as listening and giving careful and thoughtful attention and response to the messages we receive (Adler and Proctor 247). This is very similar to Shafir’s description of mindful listening. The elements in the listening process as described by Adler and Proctor, closely correlate to Shafir’s wide spectrum of listening skills that are used by good listeners. Shafir notes that good listeners have the ability to receive the spoken word accurately and interpret the whole message in an unbiased manner (Shafir 220). This relates to Adler and Proctors elements of hearing, the physiological dimension of listening that happens when sound waves strike the ear at a certain frequency and loudness (Adler and Proctor 247) and understanding, occurs when we make sense of a message (Adler and Proctor 249) because the listener must first hear what is being said and then interpret it. Good listeners retain the information for future use (Shafir 220) correlates to the element, remembering, the ability to recall information (Adler and Proctor 249) as the listener must remember the conversation in order to recall it at a later date. A good listener will sustain attention to the spoken word at will; listening is a process that occurs over time. The element of attending, the focus of
This paper evaluates the several main effective listening responses; prompting, questioning, paraphrasing, supportive, analyzing, advising, and judging. This paper also explains how they are applied in society, and how they can be used. The paper also goes over the definitions of these responses and when it is ideally appropriate to use said responses. We will also go over the importance of mindfulness. J. T. Wood (2014) says that the first step in finding an effective response is to be mindful. This paper explains the steps that are to be taken to have effective listening skills that will later bring you to having a response. Adia Lane (2012) suggests that we use the knowledge of knowing the other person's personal style. . We will also discuss
Music is notorious for enthralling the brain, each genre responsible for provoking a unique brain response. Frequently, teenagers and the like, attempt to make a situation more tolerable by listening to their preferred song choices. It is to their disdain that simultaneously completing a task and listening to music may drastically negate from their performance rather than benefit it. These varied outcomes are correlated to the certain music genre adhered to the scenario. Music genres such as jazz, rock, and classical or ambient all exude effects upon the brain.
To achieve deep listening, the listener must take on certain responsibilities to help the talker and to ensure that there is agreement about the interpretation and intent of a message. Specifically, the listener must focus on the talker and pay close attention to what is being said. Strive to understand the meaning of the message and respond accordingly. Keep in mind that the response lets the talker know whether or not the message is getting through and allows him or her to adjust the message accordingly.
Active Listening It is most important to learn how to pay full attention to others as they communicate, and this process involves more than merely listening to the words. It involves absorbing the content, noting gestures and subtle changes in voice or expression, and
There are several methods to achieving effective listening. Concentrate on what others are saying. Make yourself shut out other challenges facing you and simply listen. Don't allow yourself to do other things as you listen, such as answering the phone, doing paperwork, or checking your e-mail. Effective listening is difficult and requires all of your attention and effort. The listener needs to focus on what is being said so they will not misinterpret what the speaker is trying to say. Paraphrase or rephrase what the speaker was saying in your own words to ensure that you heard the information accurately. It is important to
Listening is more than just hearing. The process of listening involves receiving and constructing meaning, and responding to verbal and/or nonverbal messages. In other words, listening is not always easy and being a good listener is all about developing listening skills. To receive messages appropriately we have to listen actively. Active listening can be broken down into three important skills; first of all you have to reflect the feelings that the person is communicating, secondly reflect the content that they are communicating and finally ask good, meaningful questions.